Your mind can really be a real jerk. In the last 3 years of my transformation from being very stuck in my head and burned out to the present where I am grounded, have control over my thoughts and I enjoy my life and job.
That transformation was not something tangible like a drastic change in weight, or how good I ate or how much work I had to do, but what changed for me in the past three years was how I thought about all those things.
So, this is your friendly reminder to get out of your own way. You have the power within you to make a change but it’s all in how you are framing your thoughts.
My roadblock to happiness was my own damn mind. That is why it is important to start reframing and believing you can do things.
A lot of people come to me and talk about all the reasons they CAN’T DO SOMETHING. I constantly hear: “I can’t do that. I’m not good at that. I KNOW that I can’t do that”. BUT what about all the things you CAN do! This is where the power of your mind comes in and how nothing can change in your circumstances EXCEPT how you think yet you can be a lot happier about them.
4 ways the shackles of my mind wreaked havoc on my life:
The last 5 years I have been within the same 10 lbs range of weight, whether I was doing a drastic diet or I was not caring at all. But the whole time I was stressed out no matter what I was doing.
It wasn’t until I got real with myself and said “YOU’RE FINE! Why don’t you just start taking each day a time and accept who you are”. Once I started reframing that I started to gain confidence in myself. I was positive about my body and nothing had changed with my body, just the way I was looking at myself.
My levels of anxiety are about the same as they used to be BUT now I don’t go down a rabbit hole of judgement towards myself about the anxiety. The power wasn’t about not having anxiety at all but how I look at it is! Now when I’m anxious I come at it from a place of curiosity rather than a place of judgement. AGAIN nothing changed in my anxiety levels, but the way I think about it did.
I always viewed myself as not good at relationships (friendship or intimate). I would always say to myself “I’ve had too many bad relationships, I’m bad at them”. The truth was, it had to do with how I was viewing myself in them. I kept viewing myself as somebody who wasn’t good at having friends, rather than being grateful for the friends and partners that I did have.
For a long time I was always fear being broke and always thought that I would never have enough. Now I’m feeling abundant and great and my finances haven’t changed drastically in the past 3 years! I’m now seeing the positive aspects of money rather than the things that could go wrong.
The power is within you to rethink your circumstances. There are always going to be situations that are taxing or hard, or easier, but you have the power right now to be who you want to be!
If you want to be the person who is not burnt out, happy with how they eat, content with their body – ITS THERE! Just start thinking about it that way! Stop thinking about all the things you can’t do and harness the power of your mind and think about all the things you CAN do.
Just imagine what would happen if, for every time you told yourself you CAN’T, you flipped it and told yourself you CAN. You’d be a freaking WARRIOR!
So today, go for it, catch yourself and reframe!